Stay strong I Don't like that phrase "Stay strong!" It is so over-rated because it is used for every situation. If you lose a loved one, you are on the verge of a mental breakdown or feeling depressed that's the first thing out of everybody's mouth. Here is a scenario of how I mentally respond... Me: I don't wanna be bothered today my dad's not doing Well! Random person: Be strong honey he will pull through! Me: bitch how the fuck you know? You there with him? Are you his doctor? Do you know something I don't know? But no matter the situation I always end up saying " Thanks I appreciate it! You never wanna be rude to someone who is trying to be as sympathetic as they can be without feeling soft, corny or stupid. I want to ask people all the time "How strong do I have to be? Can I break just once? Nobody expects you to break, fold or disappear no matter how much it hurts you. Granted we all have to keep going just to survive but why I can't use my PTO without somebody being negative? There is always one person waiting on your downfall and that phrase "Stay strong!" Will not help you reveal the truth. They are common and expected so there is no sympathy in it at all to me.

The things we go through for love

Have you ever realized when someone knows you have deep feelings for them their action either change for the good or bad. Rarely for the good! As long the other individual is unclear of how you feel other than what you do tell them things can go either way as well. Before deciding if this is you think about the actions of the other person. Do they make you feel unappreciated? Do they always say how they feel about you but act differently? Do they have a lack of respect for you? If you can answer yes to at least one of those questions you may want to pay attention to your man but before you do ask yourself a question, Do I know my other person well enough to assume or question their actions? If you don't know what the other person likes or normally does then there is no need for you to question anything unless the proof is in the pudding. Now if your significant other is normally happy, energetic and family oriented and their schedule changes unexpectedly you might want to keep your eyes open. This does not necessarily mean they are cheating! They could possibly be working late or hanging with the boys. Ladies give a man a possible advancement opportunity and allow them to show you who they are and what you mean to them. Men stop calling all women whores, bitches, slots, tramps, etc. That is not at all how you handle a woman verbally. If you made the right decisions in regards to women you would not have been used, cheated on and taken advantage of. Before calling a woman a whore think about what you did in the past. If you have slept around or slept with a whore what does that make you? Before calling a woman a bitch, Play all your temper tantrums and arguments back in your head you got bitch tendencies too. When we all become comfortable with yourself and know your faults before calling somebody else out maybe you will have the opportunity to find real love.

Life at a glance

Throughout my life i have seen and had some dealings with several types of men. I have had the thug, the baby, the addict, the dead beat, the less hygienic, the hustler and the momma's boy. Each one has opened my eyes to what kind of man i want. With the thug, he was very aggressive because he had a reputation in the streets. He was not the faithful type and not the fatherly type either. He only worries about his boys. The baby was the spoiled type he always wanted things to go his way and when they didn't he has a fit. He was too focused on himself to be a father, lover, or friend. The addict had not only 1 addiction but he was also addicted to proving something to everybody else. He always wanted people to see his good side and not his addiction. He was secretive, sneaky and agitated on some days. The dead beat was not interested at all in taking care of his responsibilities. Doing all he can in the streets or even at work but he never took the initiative to be a father, lover, or provider. The less hygienic was not focused at all on his personal hygiene. Allowing himself to have a aroma which stuck around even after a shower. The hustler always put money first regardless of what could happen. Some hustlers are good fathers, providers, and sometimes lovers. They are also a little like the thugs. The momma's boys are very dependent upon their mother and normally look for a woman who will take her place. They are family oriented, sometimes responsible, and make great fathers. Their mothers always seem to come first in their life which leaves you either second or third in their lives. Each one is different but they all have similar qualities. A real woman does not need a man but wants a man who will put them first as well as their children, love them with actions and not words, be romantic and shows appreciation for what they do. No woman deserves to be talked down to, beat on, pushed to the side, cheated on, or dis- respected.